Do be Receptive
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If you have always been attracted to the
tall, macho guy with bulging muscles and perfectly coiffed blond hair, don't
rule out a short red-headed geek. The same rule applies to men. Just because
your dream girl looks like Barbie and wears barely-there dresses doesn't mean
that she's the one for you. Give those who are not "your type" a
chance. Who knows? you might just have been dating the wrong type of girl all
along. Opposites can and do attract.
Be on Time
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Nothing shows disinterest and disrespect
more than someone who is consistently late for dates. This shows that the
person does not value your time and that he is very selfish. If it happens once
in a great while, don't sweat it, because things can happen. However, if your
date is late with regularity, consider moving on to someone who values you more
than themselves.
Pay Attention
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No one likes having to repeat himself
endlessly. Showing your special someone that you remembered a little detail
about her (favorite food, movie, flower or other similar things) will take you
far. People want others to pay attention to them. They will be touched you
remember the small things about them.
Be Honest
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If you are just looking to casually date,
let the person know, so she doesn't get her hopes up that you are ready to run
down the aisle anytime soon. If you have been married, don't keep this from the
person you are dating. If you have kids, be upfront. If you have slept with
hundreds of people, do not feign virginity. More than likely, anything you
don't spill upfront will have a way of getting out eventually. Your partner
will appreciate your honesty and integrity, even if it is not something she
necessarily wants to hear. Honesty and trust are both the foundation of a good,
long-lasting relationship.
Don't be Desperate
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Just because she hasn't called or text-ed
you 20 minutes after your date ended, doesn't mean she is not interested. By
all means, do not bombard them with strings of texts or calls. Nothing screams
"Needy and Desperate" more than this. Have enough confidence in
yourself to realize that if he doesn't call you or decides not to date you,
it's his loss, not yours.
Do not Settle
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If you are not interested in your date,
tell her early-on and cut ties, the sooner the better. It is better to get it
out in the open right away as opposed to letting the relationship drag on for
months or even years. By allowing it to continue on, you risk far more emotional
and psychological damage to the other person, especially if his feelings
intensify. The right person is out there for you. Don't settle just because you
do not have the confidence in yourself to be single and on your own.
Be Creative
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Just because you had a couple of great
dinner-and-movie dates doesn't mean that is the only type of date you two will
have successfully. If you have common interests, explore those options. For
example, if you two are avid marathon runners take a day trip out into a scenic
area of town and go for a long run. Take in the beautiful scenery and challenge
each other along the way. Being active together will bring you two closer
together over a common bond. Take your date to the amusement park, a local
tourist attraction or even out of town for the weekend. Keeping it interesting
and creative, It will keep the relationship alive and thriving.
Do not Become Intimate Right Away
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Jumping into the sack after the first date
can send mixed signals. Physical attraction does not necessarily equate to a
good dating relationship. While one party might be in it purely for the sex,
the other might take it to mean that the person is falling for him, and he
might become too emotionally involved too quickly. Take it slow. Give the
relationship time to blossom outside the bedroom before you take that big step.
Make sure you are both on the same page about what you want out of the
relationship first.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
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Take note of how your date treats others,
his parents and his friends. Just because she can be sweet and attentive to you
does not mean that is how she is once outside the dating realm. If he is
dismissive and rude toward others, chances are he will end up doing the same to
you. Cut and run early on before she takes you off the pedestal and starts
treating you as poorly as she treats others.
Get to Know Each Other's Friends
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A person's friends can reveal a lot about
her. If her friends are all unemployed druggies, for example, you should wonder
why she does not have friends that are not more successful and on the right
path. If they are a group of womanizing guys who troll bars nightly picking up
one-night stands, this is a red flag not to ignore. The same goes for a group
of scantily-dressed females who go looking for wealthy males to support them.
It is important to question why they don't have a better group of friends and
what this says about their character.
